It feels like I’ve spent 2 months in SImferopol in the 5 or 6 months I have been travelling Ukraine looking for a lady. People all wonder if it is a ruse or a scam: some of it is, but there are real ladies who are interested to meet guys: you just have to pick the right lady, hit the right formula.
I guess I thought I could move towards an introduction with this one 27 year old divorced lady, I thought she was a good person to try to get to know, a more normal age difference: her profile looked nice. The mistake I made is that it takes too long for the papers to clear that say you aren’t a convicted felon, wife beater or some druggy type or had restraining orders. I wouldn’t be bothering with trying to find a great woman here if I had those kind of black marks on my record. I have a clean bill of health, but unless people know you for a while, they just take it for granted that you are probably either a failure or have some kind of problem: it is very bad form to be a foreign man unattached here. It just means that you can’t plan and manage, make arrangements.
SO I am not just going to hang around here, burn time off my clock waiting for this lady or her representative to call my phone. if things evolve through phone contact, maybe I can get back here. Probably 75% chance she’s with her regular guy doing the holiday thing, and I was a fool to think otherwise. But I did meet an insider at the disco last night, a guy named Konstantin. He has a beautiful wife from Osh Russia or something. He looks like he knows everybody. But he is flying to Istanbul today to go to his wife’s people: he won’t be of any use for me now.
Now I am waiting for a call from Odessa: I may go, but even that feels complicated now. I’d want to have 3 weeks in Odessa to make anything serious start to happen, and I only have about ten days. the trains don’t work well for me either from here. I have a feeling I will be waiting around a lot.
But, I gotta carry on as best I can, try to keep it safe for now
Eventually the gal did write me back, here is what she wrote:
Hello dearest Lucien, I am very much confused with your letter. I don’t know what you mean saying you came here just to see me, seems it is VERY far from reality. We have never planed or arranged any kind of meeting. Moreover I have never gave you any hopes. Right now I am on the stage of starting very serious relations with a man and I am going to Kiev on 13th Jan. So I don’t understand your persistence. Sorry but seems it is some kind of misunderstanding. I am very sorry you came here and just wasting time. I can recomend you a dating agency here in Simferopol, may be they can help you.
you seem to be a very good honest person I would like to support you and help you
Regardds
Elena
this was her previous letter:
Hello Lucien it is amazing to receive such a letter-storry! It is very pleasant to hear from you again and to see the evidences of you are really reliable honest man! Such behavior and such brave steps are really worth of respect. You are leting me to know you, not insisting on anything it is very rare here! I get very many silly letters from a men saying me right in the first messages the love ma and some other ridiculous things! I like you are not rushing!!! It proves me you are serious! And I wonder why you are not asking me any questions? Are you not interested?
Hope you have enjoyed this weekend celebrating Christmas. Yes I also celebrated it ) I am celebrating it two times)))) I adore Christmas and winter holidays It is wonderful magic time, when I feel myself again like a little girl. Believe in miracles. I adore that atmosphere of holiday, love all the decorations, all about that magic in the air))) I can go on for ages))) What is Christmas for you? Promise that next year you won’t be celebrating it alone!!!!!!!!!!
I hug you warmly and send you a long, soft kiss back,
Lena
January 28, 2012 at 12:19 am |
the lady in the photo set is the translator: good people, she did not ask a specific amount, she is with a guy, a Ukrainian guy, though she’s pretty, I didn’t want to beg her for affection! We are friends, despite that she betrayed some confidences as any woman will :unfortunate for me, but as she says “all things are meant to be” she went with me to Crimea, we web searched some marriage agencies in SImferopol, after calling like 4-5 of them, when she got someone on the phone they were like “You can not just come here expecting to meet women, all this has to be arranged (and under our control)” of the 4-5 numbers we found on the net, only one picked up the phone (giving that response).
I think that “agencies” are often just some lady with a laptop, some times even without a fixed internet address, just going to an internet cafe to send out mails to the lady client’s favorites. They use some function like “F2″ to insert the guy’s name in a non-specific post that goes out to 30 or 40 other men. ALthough the big cities do have “marriage agencies” with computers, desks, places to make tea, take photos and so on.